The Untapped Goldmine of Making Friends in Your Professional Network

So, here’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot – the challenge of making new friends as we get older. It’s not like when we were kids, able to make a new buddy just by sharing a toy. Now, we’re in the thick of life, maybe even past the halfway point, and suddenly finding people we connect with feels like a massive task. You look around and realize the friends you’ve had for years don’t quite fit into your life anymore. It’s a strange and unsettling feeling.

But I’ve stumbled upon a potential solution that might seem a bit unconventional at first: turning to your business associates for friendship. Yes, the people you’re emailing, meeting, and collaborating with on projects could potentially be your next close friends.

Here’s the thing. Working together builds a foundation of trust. You rely on each other for professionalism, punctuality, and collaboration. That’s a solid base to start from. Plus, you’ve got at least one thing in common already – your work. It’s a natural icebreaker.

I remember being told once that friendships should offer mutual benefits. It might sound transactional, but it’s not about using people. It’s about supporting each other. If there’s no give and take, then what’s the point? This perspective makes business associates a logical pool to fish for new friends from.

However, a word of caution when it comes to clients. It’s entirely possible to form friendships here too, but you’ve got to navigate these waters carefully. Establish boundaries to prevent any misunderstandings about the nature of your relationship. It’s essential to maintain professionalism while being open to genuine connections.

So, if you’re feeling a bit isolated or simply recognize the need for new friendships in your life, why not look around your professional circle? There might be potential friends right under your nose. Just remember, clear boundaries are key to building lasting friendships.

Catch you later, and remember, keep an open mind. Your next great friend might just be a conference call away.

Flipping Roles: My Journey from Son to Caregiver

Hey everyone, today I’m hitting you with a real-talk post, something I’ve been living for the last decade. It’s a bit of a “listen to your own advice, Cliff” moment. That saying about going from being taken care of to taking care of others? It’s the real deal, no joke. Let me break it down for you.

Back in 2014, my mom had a stroke. It hit her hard, messing with her brain to where simple stuff like math, keeping track of time, or jotting down notes became a maze for her. She can walk, talk, and think, but those basic tasks? They’re a struggle. Fast forward to now, 2024, and I’m realizing I’ve been in this caregiver role for a whole ten years. My mom’s 76, and looking ahead, we might be in this for another decade.

Here’s the kicker: Mom doesn’t have the cash for fancy private care, so we’re crossing fingers for Medicaid to back us up. Didn’t mention before, but her knee’s a wreck—arthritic, swollen like a grapefruit, thanks to a car crash when she was younger. Doctors say knee replacement’s on the table, but it’s a long road: pull the pin from her femur, let that heal, then tackle the knee, followed by more healing and therapy. That’s a mountain of a challenge for someone her age.

Selling her house to pay for a nursing home? Did the math. Best case, that’s a 5-6 year solution before we’re back to square one, hoping Medicaid steps in. If we’d thought ahead and snagged a long-term care plan, we wouldn’t be sweating it now.

So here’s the deal, as I see it: You’re born, your parents got your back for a couple of decades, then it flips. Suddenly, you’re the one looking out for them. If you’re smart, you’ll get that long-term care policy sorted early. Don’t be like me, learning the hard way. We plan for our kids, stash away savings for retirement, but planning for our parents? Slips through the cracks.

Take it from someone who’s living it: The care cycle’s a full circle. Get ahead of it, and make sure you’re ready when it’s your turn to step up.